December 19, 2007
Real life Sex and the City Story
Disclaimer: I have permission to tell this story. It is all true.
A friend of mine called to tell me about the date she had over the weekend. For the backstory, she is going back and forth to New York City a lot. The last time she was there she met this guy that she was really excited about. Like, go out and buy a really hot outfit excited. They made plans to meet the next time she was up in the city. Ok, great.
I have been anxiously waiting to hear what happened. Here goes. She goes to meet him at a bar. They have a drink or two and then he asks her about her dating past. She gives him the short version of the long term relationship she just got out of. Then he begins to tell her about his. Wait for it. Wait for it. He has a common law wife. In his words, they are “poly-amorous”. As a nice Southern girl who wants to get married and have kids, poly-amorous is not an option.
She said she would start to laugh every time he said “poly-amorous”, which he would not stop saying. My friend begins to press him for more info. Seems as though he has the common law wife and another girlfriend who knows the situation too. The wife dates other people. He said his common law wife would really like my friend. That they would be great friends and all have a great time together. And how stereotypical, their favorite show is Big Love.
I told my friend that it sounded like the old documentary on PBS called “The Lost Children of Rockdale County” and she should has to see a flow chart of who is doing who.
My friend said by the end of it, all she could think when he said “poly-amorous” was “Pollyanna and her positive spin f**k buddy”. Way to work the semantics of it all.
Anyway, when they left the bar it was hailing and he was on a motorcycle. He said “If you want to catch my collar and drag me up to your room go for it. Have your way with me.” She looked at him stunned. She said, “Why don’t I just give you a kiss on the cheek and you go home to your wife?”
They have decided to be friends.
I bet the SATC writers wish they had come up with that storyline themselves! “Poly-amorous”? Poly-give-me-a-break!
wow
I see these (poly-amorous)
lives on shows and such but have never met or known anyone to have met one (of many)! I guess it really does exist! CRAZY!!!
Have a great time in Naples! Merry Christmas & Happy New Year. I hope you have the best holiday possible, my thoughts are with you!
I briefly dated someone “poly-amorous.” He also said how much his “main squeeze” would like me and asked if I was open to the idea of group marriage! (Uh, NO!)
I found out a few weeks later that the “main girlfriend” had no idea he was seeing other people! Poly-amorous is to the 2000’s what “my wife and I have an understanding” was to the 1970’s.
i.e., I like to screw around but feel okay about it because I told you that I am committed to someone else.
Oh that is tooo crazy, I thought these people only lived in Utah and Arizona haha
That is insane!
Just goes to show that anything can happen in NYC! That’s why I love it so. We definitely need to make post-new years plans… this year has gotten away from me!
ROTF - Your poor friend! I can’t help laughing, though, Leslie - that was the funniest story I have read in a very long time! Even with the “Lost Children of Rockdale County” allusion (I saw it - THAT’S a disturbing docu). Even with that, just too funny.
Oddly, that also sounds like LA, a city I am much more familiar with than NYC. I’ve met a few “polyamorous” gay couples out there, not any straight ones really. I’m not sure if it’s more common in the gay community or not, at least in Southern California. Who knows?