November 20, 2007
Weddings - Don’t Be Greedy
Disclaimer: this post might make me sound like a total bitch, but I am sticking by it.
Disclaimer 2: I have nothing against Morristown, NJ.
I was out last night again and got into a discussion about the rude shit that people do in regards to their weddings and baby showers. One of the girls I was out with was telling horrendous stories of 150 invite lists to baby showers and espadrilles at hunting lodge weddings in South Georgia. Totally freaked me out.
My big story of late is the Jewish Morrocan wedding we have to attend on NEW YEAR’S F*****G EVE in Morristown, NJ. Ed is a groomsman. Anyway, I am totally pissed about it. It seems as though there are week long events for this wedding as well. (We won’t be attending those because we will be on vacation in Naples, FL.) The couple was given X amount for all of this and the guest list was made. Also, seems as though they invited a shit load of people from Israel that they thought would only send money. As is tradition. Not so much. All these people have their plane tickets to come over the pond. So now any envelopes the couple gets has to be opened at the wedding to pay for it. How tacky. How greedy. Totally passing judgement here.
When myself and many friends got married, we had our budget/style and that is how the guest list was made. Second cousins did not make the list. Weddings are to expensive any more to think there is a never ending supply of invites. All it causes is debt. Never think people are not going to come because they will. And if they have to travel, in all likelihood, they will not bring a gift. So for this couples sake I hope they get enough to cover it. Unfortunately, they won’t get to start of their new lives together with a ton of cash. Possibly not even a honeymoon.
If you know of a hair salon in Morristown, NJ near the Westin that I can get my hair done on New Year’s Eve, let me know.
I am so with you on this…as usual. People are soooo greedy it’s unbelievable! The sense of entitlement is outrageous. I can probably get you the name of a decent place in or near Morristown if you want…my summertime neighbor lives in that neck of the woods the rest of the year.
Yikes! I am speechless about that, totally speechless. I’ve never been to Morristown, NJ, at all, so I know nothing about it and would be of no help at all (on anything Jersey-related actually). But look on the bright side: at least you’ll have some Moroccan food for dinner! Since you’ll be so close to NYC, are you going to try to make it to Times Square?
BTW: Guess what I saw on The Food Network just now? Paula Deen frying stuffing. I was hoping you had made that up, but she DID IT! Wow, I’m just like, wow.
A. If you can get a name I would really appreciate it.
John - You KNOW I don’t make this stuff up. Wasn’t it disgusting?
So are you going to tell us about your dinner w/ Rusches last night at Luckie Lounge?
Oy Vey!
I’m so with you. I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving.
P.S. Good luck finding a good hairstylist, never an easy task!
Some of the absolutely most annoying people I’ve ever known have come from Morristown or surrounding villages. True story. So I totes have something against it! (Well, and I live and work in NYC, so I have something against the entire state of NJ, except Jon Bon Jovi, for obvious reasons) GOOD LUCK.
WOW! I mean what a story- I remember when I was a planner I had a bride book a ballroom for 200 MAX- she invited 300 saying they were all in Ireland and would not come- and you so know they did and made a big family trip to DC ! It was a shitshow! Budget? We did not even have a sit down dinner any longer- It ended up being stations and mingling - what a mess!
Its so rude to get married on holidays- dont people realize this?
PS- cant wait to see pics of your trifle- I saw it - and want to eat it myself. Good luck!
love this post. i’ve had my fill of ignorant greedy people with demands and no consideration this week. i feel you.
First of all, Happy Thanksgiving!
Second, I was thinking and if I can’t get in touch with my neighbor you might try reaching out to Melissa Morris, she is actually from Morristown.
This is a cultural tradition. Yon’t HAVE to go. ugh.
I don’t hate Jews or traditions. All I am saying is that their giant list and New Year’s Eve wedding is causing issues for everyone. I have never heard of a tradition of opening the envelopes to pay for the wedding. My understanding is that the money is for them to start their new lives.
So don’t be saying I don’t have to go because this is a close friend of our’s and Ed is in the wedding. All you saw was the word Jewish and wrote your post.
Same thing sort of happened to my brother. He got married 2 days after xmas. Hadn’t planned to invite the UK cousins, but they got told about it, and booked flights, arriving xmas afternoon. with their kids. it was a tiny wedding - 50 people at church, another 100+ at the reception. so the additional family at the church meant not having other close friends.
And having a wedding on new years eve presumes that everyone wants to spend that time with you.
All I saw was that you can’t be bothered to do research. You rsvp’d.
I did do research. This info is coming from the groom himself.
Per this site,
http://www.ehow.com/how_4343_jewish-wedding.html, it only says you have to have your immediate family in the wedding party. The people from Israel are not immediate family. They are only extended members that from the groom’s mouth “supposedly would only send money”.
The groom and bride are both social workers who cannot foot the bill for the rest of these people. And the parents are not giving them any more money, thus the need for opening the envelopes at the service.
I understand, that the wedding must be held after sunset and not on the Sabbath. Seriously, I grew up a Seventh Day Adventist and the sunset thing was definitely part of my life for a very long time.
I just don’t understand why you would use the name anti-semitic or be so accusatory since it is obvious in the story that the couple can not afford what is being asked of them. They were only given 20K for all this and now we have been told they won’t even be able to afford all the other events that were supposed to be held.
The family celebration has become a money pit.
I’m not Jewish. Can someone explain to me how opening envelopes and counting money at the service is ok?
Can’t wait for your party on the 4th